Capitalist ideology wants us to believe that there is an optimal way to live. 'Making connections' means networking for work.

Our emotional needs are to be fulfilled by a single romantic partner, and self-care equates to taking personal responsibility for our suffering. We must be productive and heterosexual, we must have babies and buy a house. But the kicker is most people cannot and do not want to achieve these goals.

Instead we are left feeling atomised, exhausted and disempowered.